Archive for June, 2009

D-Day

June 26, 2009

Wife went in for beta blood work today at 7:45am.  We got the call from the Dr at 1:30pm that we are NOT pregnant.  Guess those two, healthy, beautiful embroys decided they didn’t want to stick around for 9 months.  Well, we are obviously very upset, but I kinda had a feeling.  She was cramping and spotting, and the home pregnancy tests kept coming up negative.

Well, now it is time to regroup and see if we try this game again, or something different.

T Minus 4 days…

June 22, 2009

We go in for our Beta this Friday and we are super nervous.  Her OHSS is totally cured, the swelling went down and she is feeling great.  Our main concern is that she has been getting cramps.  These are similar to what she gets when she starts her priod.  Today, 8 days post transfer, she had some slight spotting.  She panicked and consulted a friend who underwent IVF.  It is crazy all the different answers you get to yoru questions.  Some people say cramping is normal and a good sign (embryo implanting).  Some say spotting is a good sign.  Others report it is just the onset of their period. 

I guess there is no right or wrong answer, since every woman, and every situation is different.  Waiting has got to be the hardest part.  Not nearly as hard as getting a negative, but still hard.  Just a few more days to find out what is going on in there.  Wish us luck.

The waiting game begins

June 15, 2009

On Sunday at 7am we went to the doctors office to prep for the embryo transfer.  My wife has been having some issues with bloating.  Apparently her ovaries are hyper-stimulated, causing fluid to build up.  This causes her discomfort, the feeling of being full, difficulty breathing and basic abdominal pain.  It isn’t uncommon in IVF procedures, however I do fault the Doctor office in that she called them 2 times telling them of these problems and they just told her it was normal.  However, when we went into for the transfer the doctor looked pretty concerned and if we were candidates for embryo freezing it would have been done until her ovaries settled down and the fluid levels went back to normal.

The doctor stated, and I have confirmed via research that OHSS isn’t a risk for the baby, or even at your chances of getting pregnant, but it cuases the mother pain for basically the first trimester.  I don’t want my wife to be in any pain at all, so I am very upset and concerned.  We are going back to the office on Wednesday for some tests so they can monitor the fluid levels.  Hopefully they won’t have to drain her fluid as other women I have read about have had done.

The embryologist came in with pictures of our embryos.  Apparently only one of the AAs made it, and the next runner up was I believe a BA or BB or something like that.  Again, we were disapointed as of Saturday the AAs were still doing great.  So we got an AA and a B? implanted.  Now keep in mind the grades don’t effect the quality of the child.  That is the say, the lower the grade doesn’t mean the child will be retarded or have problems, learning difficulties, etc.  It is just that the higher the grade, the better the chance of implantation.  We made it all the way to a 5 day blastocyte, which supposedly increases your chances of success, but the little bugger still has to implant into the uterus lining.  So we wait until  this Friday when they do a blood test to see how her progesterone levels are, and then the following Friday for our beta pregnany test. 

They don’t give you a yes or no.  They basically monitor the hormone levels and if they are going up, then you are in the clear.  So we wait for 2 weeks now, and just take it easy.  This is the hardest part, because science has stopped and mother nature has taken over.  Wish us luck!

Egg McMuffins & Horse Needles

June 11, 2009

Started our first progesterone shot yesterday.  That’s the Queens we, I just did the sticking, she did the receiving.  It went very well.  Again, I prepared the needle, a 1 1/2 inch 22 gauge monster with the progesterone.  She couldn’t lay on her belly this time as she already looks 2 months pregnant and it still hurts a bit from the retrieval.  So she bent over the bed.  And yes, my mind wandered.  Anyway I iced her ass for about 5 minutes, swabbed it with alcohol and jabbed that bad boy in.  Again, no pain, no discomfort, she hardly felt a thing.  A quick back rub later and she was all ready to watch TV.  We have to get good at this, as you have to give progesterone shots every single day until she get s a postive on the pregnancy test.  If pregnant, you have to continue till around week 7, so that is 7+ weeks of horse shots.

Got the news from the embryologist today:

If you remember, they retrieved 19 eggs.  Of the 19, 14 fertilized, and the numbers are in:

We have 7 embryos that are graded as AA’s (the best of the best)
And 5 are AB’s (awesome)
And the rest are B’s.  (still great).

Looks like implantation will be on Sunday.  Unfortunately due to medical conditions on my side, they can’t freeze our embryos, so hopefully this works.  Will give you more news when we get it.  Wish us luck!

Initial results are in

June 10, 2009

The embryologist just called with the results of our little petri dish babies.  If you remember, they took out 19 glorious eggs from my wife yesterday.  She is doing great by the way today.  Up and about and at work.  Though she is taking it easy. 

Of the 19 eggs removed, we just got word that 14 fertilized.  The embryologist said that number was fantastic.  We get word tommorow on how they are doing, and the grade of the ones that make it through the night.  I asked my wife if she wanted to name them, we decided that might take up too much time.  We’ll spend time naming the hopefully twins we get. 

Tonight is the first progesterone shot.  Another horse needle, square in the ass.  Hopefully she takes it as well as the trigger shot.  More tommorow.  Wish us luck!

What do porn, eggs and sprite have in common?

June 9, 2009

So today is the big day.  Well one of many perhaps.  Today was the day that my wife had to have her eggs aspirated.  We arrived at the Doctors office at 7:45am for our procedure.  Now I have been to many doctors offices in my time, but I have to tell you, this place was run like a well oiled machine.  The second we walked in, they had paperwork for us to sign, had a room for us to wait in and had nurse after nurse come in asking questions.  The setup is basically this:

1) The take wifey into a room and have her undress, everything comes off, no jewelry, nothing
2) They bring her back to her bed and give her an IV and start a saline drip
3) They hook up every machine that beeps, bings, and makes noises to her to check her heart, temperature, whether she gets DirectTv, etc.
4) They wheel her away to the OR where they put her out, aspirate the egg and bring her to recovery
5) They have me go to a room and produce my sample
6) I meet her back in recovery and wait for the drugs to wear off and take her home.

So wifey gets undressed and I fill out paperwork, answer questions, etc.  She comes back and has everything off but her bra.  The make nurse scolds her.  Bad wifey, bad!  The only reason she kept it on is because with all the meds, her breasts are super duper tender and it hurts to have the material of the gown on them.  She comes back and lays back down.

10,000 questions and forms later they are ready to walk her to the OR.  I am told to wait in the lobby and follow orders, like a good soldier.  About 30 minutes later somebody comes out and gets me, leads me to the room to jerkoff and leave my deposit.  This room is always a little creepy.  I mean, you know about 500 guys have masturbated in there, and they have porn playing on the TV, nude magazines, etc.  It is uncomfortable because the nurse is a woman, so you know she is like, hmmm, wonder what porno this dude is into.  To make matters worse, I brought a bookbag with me with my laptop and other things so I could do work while I waited for my wife.  They probably thought I brought my own sick porn with me.  Then of course when you are done depositing the sample you wonder if you should just ring the bell to come out, or wait like 10 minutes to make it seem like it took you a long time.  I split the difference and waited 5 minutes after I was done.  I wanted to see how the porno ended.  Did she actually pay for the pizza?

I go back to the waiting room and wait, watching a little morning TV.  The Dr comes out and greets me, tells me she is out of surgery, and he got 19 eggs.  19.  Holy shit!  That sounds amazing.  I am ready to enter the Guiness book of records, until he tells me the record at their clinic is in the 50+ range.  Damn!  It isn’t the quantity it is the quality right?  But still 19 eggs is freaking amazing!  They lead me back to see my wife who is knocked out.

This is the fun time when all she says is jumbled jargon and you can tease her and she’ll never know, or at least she won’t remember.  She wasn’t out too long, maybe 20 minutes and she started to come around.  She was feeling pretty good, but the nurse wanted her to go pee before he could let her go.  I guess they need to make sure you can pass the liquid saline before they let you go.  Well she is in the bathroom for 10 minutes and it just aint happening.  She tried all the tricks, but she didn’t get so much as a drop.

They brought her back into the recovery room and increased her fluids and brought her a can of Sprite.  She hates sprite.  I drank it, yummy!  $13,000 Sprite!  She went through an entire new bag of IV juice until she felt the urge to try again.  Success!  She has never been happier to pee in her life.  It meant we got to go home.  Apparently we were the last people still around and left at 11:45am.

When we got home, she took some Tylenol with Codeine and had a light meal.  She was very happy, alert and had energy.  Just a slight discomfort, similar to menstral cramps, or gas, but nothing she couldn’t take, she is a woman after all, strong pain threshold.  She was feeling so well she sent me back to work.  I took the dogs with me and headed to the office.  Yes we own our own business and the dogs are with us daily.

So far everything seems perfect.  Her eggs were plentiful, they said my specimen was great and tommorow they call us to let us know how things are progressing.  We will either have them put back in Friday or Sunday, depending on how they are doing.  We heard conflicting information.  Some people say you want day 5, the dr office said they have a better success rate with day 3.  We are gunning for twins if possible, but will be thrilled with anything.

More in a few days as we start to get results back in.  Wish us luck!

Is that a blue dot on your butt?

June 8, 2009

Wifey went to the Dr on Thursday and they told her she had over 15 follicles.  They gave her all the measurements but of course she didn’t write them down, and honestly we don’t care as long as there are some good eggs in there.  They told her, her estrogen was out of control and for us to cut back our injections from a dosage of 150 to 75 on Friday and Saturday and for her to come into the office on Sunday.

All this week she has been feeling bloated.  Her ovaries are about to explode.  It isn’t so much as pain she says, but just a full or conspitated feeling.  She was so uncomfortable that I had to do a manual release on Friday as per Doctors orders with no help from my mate 😦  There is nothing worse than heading to the bathroom to take care of business and coming back to your wife saying, wow, that was pretty quick.  I guess my bruised ego isn’t as bad as all the shots she has to take, which still have had no side-effects.

So on Sunday, she goes to the Dr and they take a look inside and were pleasantly surprised.  She is doing great, and they told her to take the trigger shot at 9pm that same day, but rather than 2ccs, to take 1cc since she has so much estrogen.  This is the needle she has been fearing.  It is 1 1/2 inches long and a 18 gauge and goes right into the rump, right in the muscle.  She has really been scared about this shot, and I have been nervous because it is so big, and the timing is critical.

About 30 minutes before the shot, I did all the preparation, mixed it all up, etc.  I went into the bedroom and prepared the area.  Turned on lights so I could see what I was doing, studied the diagram of where to put the shot from the Doctors office, and psyched myself up.  I called me wife in 5 minutes before the shot and had her lay on her tummy on the bed.  I looked on her tushy and I saw this little blue dot on her butt, exactly where I was going to do the injection.  The backstory of this dot is that as a child, my wifes sister was chasing her with a super sharp pencil and when they collided the lead or graphite from the pencil embedded itself in her butt.  The dot has never gone away, and it just so happens it was in the exact right spot.  I thought of it as a sign, a positive one.  It almost brought me to tears.

Anyway, she lay on her belly and I took an ice pack and applied it to the blue dot for 5 minutes.  When the clock struck 9pm, I took off the ice pack, rubbed some alcohol on the area, closed my eyes (kinda sorta) and pushed that needle down, what I thought was hard.  What they don’t prepare you for is that skin is freaking thick, and it takes a lot of force to get a needle in there, and muscle is tough, so you gotta really work hard at it if you don’t jab it in all the way the first time.  I looked up at her and asked if she was ok.  She didn’t even flinch.  “Did you inject it yet” she asked.  Wow!! She didn’t even feel the needle prick, due to her tottally numb ass.  I got the entire needle in, drew back to check for blood, and injected away.  Pulled the needle out, and gave her a kiss.  Yes, on the blue dot 🙂  She never felt a thing.  The entire fear of this super long needle was for naught.

We head to the Dr tommorow at 7:45am for extraction and my specimen.  Wish us luck, hope we get some good eggies out of this.

Smack that Ass

June 5, 2009

Before we started this whole IVF journey we kept hearing how awful the injections were.  Everything from the pain of the actual injection to the effects of the drugs.  I had nightmares of my wife running after me with kitchen shears because of her awful cramps or snapping at me in the blink of an eye.

Well I am still here and alive, and honestly, it has been pretty tame.  She had a few days where her head hurt a bit, but that is pretty status quo for the two of us.  Beyond that, not too bad.  However, the last two days she said her ovaries are hurting, and she will occassionaly get a sharp cramp for a split second.

She went to the doctor on Monday and he took a look inside and said her eggs need more time to grow.  Yesterday she went in for a pre-op appointment, where they basically make you sign your life away. And tommorow at 7am she goes in for another round of blood work and a peek inside to see if we are ready to extract.

We both started taking mandated antibiotics, and my only advice there is take on a full stomach or you’ll be sorry 🙂  Tommorow I have to, umm, relieve myself, according to the Doctor.  I am sure he said it more doctor like, but basically I have to clear the tubes so to speak.  Hopefully it won’t be a solo affair, we will have to see.

If all goes according to plan, we do the trigger shot on Saturday, but more liklely it will be a few extra days if her eggs don’t cooperate.  That is the part she is most worried about as the needles for all the other shots are babies, but this trigger and subsequent progesterone looks like you could take a core sample with the thing.  It is a beast, and goes all the way in the butt.   Wish us luck 🙂